How important is it to love the person you see in the mirror?

Is obsession a bad thing? Ummmm NO!

Is self–obsession a bad thing? Ummmm my answer is still an emphatic NO!

How often have we gone to bed thinking – “wow what a great day it was, I have really made myself happy”??

I reckon not much.

‘Happiness’ is too broad a term to be confined illustratively. But how so eclectic its definition may be, it surely involves happiness for oneself. I am reminded of the phrase ‘Khushi baatne se milti hai’, surely it does ‘par agar saari khushi baant doge to bachega kya’. Okay, even I agree that was a crude example but the underlining fact cannot be overlooked that the feeling and instinct of giving has been instilled in our thought process since the time we even learn to speak.

I have nothing against spreading happiness, but I genuinely believe that in lieu of doing so we surely forget to include one person – the one we see in the mirror. Who is to take the blame for that – the very same person we see in the mirror. Call it the sociological burden, mismanagement of time, or just the sheer conspiracy of life, we just don’t seem to find time for ourselves. We are either busy pleasing other people or just wasting our time thinking about how we could have pleased them better.

A portion of it can be primarily attributed to the fact that we allow people to take control of our happiness. Your girlfriend/boyfriend is unhappy and you spend the rest of the day being unhappy. Why? Not because you were unhappy, just because he/she was. You get your pocket money/salary and you have already planned on spending a major chunk of it for buying that special Archies teddy and card you promised your partner for making up for the silly fight that you had last week. Crazy but true. 

And before half of you already start hating me for confusing me as Anti-Buddha or someone devoid of any existent human apathy, let me just clarify that it is not as blunt as it may sound. I just feel that we have a right for making ourselves happy too. I was upset over something today and guess what I did? I ATE! Seriously, I ate and ate like a beast because it makes me happy. I thought it was any day better than drooling or sulking over some petty issue. I am planning to buy an i-pod from my pay and trust me the excitement is much more romantic than the apprehension I had when I was last dating and was thinking where to take my partner next for lunch (with my Dad’s money of course). Frantically hilarious it may sound, but hey that’s me.

Don’t let others control your happiness and you would negate the case where you are hurt by someone else s action.

Being a narcissist at times is not a crime.

Reserve some quality time for yourself. Live for yourself and surely you would get the motivation for living for others.

I love myself and I am not ashamed to admit it. :-) :-)